Is a Change Really Like a Vacation?
- Published: 04/03/2015
My grandmother Ruby, who lived in Scottdale, Pennsylvania, the inspiration for my new romance series Finch’s Crossing, used to say, “A change is as good as a vacation.” Now, I don’t know about that, but pretty much everyone knows that change is healthy and can be exciting and transformative. And I'm counting on this because in two months we’re packing up and heading to Minneapolis for a new adventure. This is the second time in eighteen months that I’ve been a trailing spouse, and moved a considerable distance, but I’m embracing my changing circumstances and imagining all the great things that could be in store for me. And all of this has me thinking about the power of change, and things like:
1. The lightning bolt theory, from Gretchen Rubin’s new book “Better Than Before.” She writes that a big change, like a move, can be just the jumpstart we need to break a bad habit. And I’ve got plenty of those! (I’m talking to you, mint chocolate chip ice cream!)
2. A change might be something we didn’t know we needed. How often has life’s circumstances—divorce, job loss, a failed endeavor, moving away—felt like the end of the world but became the best thing that ever happened? Maybe my destiny is to join a writer’s group in Minneapolis where I will meet a mentor who will help catapult me onto the USA Today Best Seller List. Or something like that…
3. Changes imposed by outside forces, such as the one I’m experiencing, can help us face our fears, because, after all, we don’t have a choice. I so dislike driving in large cities that I avoid it at all possible, and have always lived in small cities/towns. I take the train to see my sister in New York City and my husband drives when we go to Washington, D.C. for the day. Then along comes Minneapolis, the 46th largest city in the United States. (As a point of reference, there are 20,000 cities/metropolitan areas in the U.S.). Hello, ten lanes of traffic, bottleneck approach to tollbooths, and harried commuters. But, perhaps (and here’s the silver lining), I can also say goodbye to my fear of big city driving. At least, that’s the plan I’ve hatched while I’m still living in a town of 5,000 people.
So, truly, I am excited about the changes ahead. But, hey, I’d rather be on vacation!